The thoughts of counselling maybe scary, not knowing what to expect or what to say. It is how we work together, building a trusting relationship, where you feel understood and listened to, in a genuine, empathic, confidential and non-judgemental space. Giving yourself permission to be open to the experience and being committed to begin a journey of a new sense of self, taking control of your life again.
I began my counselling work in a women only centre. This gave me a rich insight into women’s issues, for example, domestic abuse, pregnancy, cultural issues and eating disorders. Following this, I gained experienced in a cancer support organisation, working with cancer patients, carers and those bereaved by this illness. We can experience grief, bereavement and loss in other parts of life also. For example, loss of a job, relationship, physical ability and a pet.
I have great insight into counselling those who have suffered sexual abuse, sexual assault and rape. I have experience in this environment with both males, females and young adults who have encountered this in their lives. My work in this area is with historic and recent survivors of this form of abuse, across all ages.
Working with young adults needs a sensitive approach and a varied form of support is needed. The issues for young people coming for counselling, often include, adolescence, bullying, peer pressure, pregnancy, leaving home, stress, lack of self esteem, lack of confidence, family dynamics, self harm, exam stress and pressure. A talking therapy may not work for everyone, so I offer artwork activities and other approaches which may be of more benefit.
I now incorporate Mindfulness into my practice. Mindfulness is about being in the present, in the moment, in the here and now. This is helpful for the mind, body and it helps embrace, recognise and reassure when your mind wanders and becomes distracted. This can be for many reasons, thinking of the past, worrying about the future or being in stressful or uncomfortable situations. By becoming aware and acknowledging these thoughts, feelings and physical sensations and how we may have become attached to them, we can begin to free ourselves from our past, worries and concerns about our future. Learning to be kind and not judge to ourselves, is a step towards an acceptance of self.
By learning mindfulness techniques, you will begin to realise, how thoughts come from our mood and negative imaginings. Once you learn to accept these thoughts as only thoughts, you will begin to feel a sense of emotional freedom, wellbeing and calm, bringing control back into your busy and hectic life.
The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) recommend “Mindfulness for depression in adults” and it is becoming more recognised as by the NHS as an “enhancement to mental wellbeing”. “Mindfulness can help us enjoy life more and understand ourselves better. You can take steps to develop it in your own life”. (NHS).
Mindfulness can help with:
- Workplace stress
- Social situations
- Low self esteem
- Lack of confidence